I learned not to hate conflict, which is inevitable, but to
handle conflict smartly. I learned easy tools like STLC to combat conflict. I
learned how negotiation and mediation takes place to settle conflict among
disputing parties. I also learned how conflict can corrupt the working
environment. Reversely, when working professionals deal with conflict
sensitively they can create a positive working environment. I learned the most important thing that I don’t
have to feel bad if someone gets angry on me for no reason because now I can
pacify myself that it is not me, but the angry person must be having a bad day.
I learned techniques to calm myself by drinking a glass of water, easy
breathing, counting numbers to get the temper back in place and then think
rationally before responding wildly in a conflict. With the help of this class,
I can manage my kids’ disputes efficiently, which is a big achievement in
itself.
I am not sure I have ever commented on your blog because I would go through the student blogs from top to bottom. I giggled a little in agreement when I read the first sentence of your May 9th blog. I agree that it is easy to hate conflict, but in understanding and dealing with it in a mature and intelligent manner it makes the conflict less painful. Making sure we are keeping other people’s personal conflicts in mind when they respond in a short tempered or rude way is also an asset. It would be asinine to believe we have all changed overnight, but we have all changed a little throughout this 16 week Conflict in Communication course.
ReplyDeleteI completely agree about not hating conflict. I use to hate conflict or to deal with it. I would either use the accommodation phase or if I am really mad I would use the avoiding phase, which the book describes as not a good option. I also agree on what you learned, I really believe that it is important to know so that you don't guilty or bad, but maybe a person if having a bad day. We are all human beings at the end of the day, I always try to look at the positives when I have a bad day. Like I say to myself, am I worse off, is my life really that bad, or is just a feeling I am having. Overall great post and great job.
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